Here are some tips for couples from Psychology Today
Men need to understand if they want their women to be more sexual they need to warm up the bun. Women crave romance. Men just want to do it. A few men that I know are gentle with light touch, that's a great beginning. Men need to learn the art of seduction. It's how you listen to her words, how you look at her. It 's not about how hard and stiff you are. It's not about how you want sex 24/7. How a man treats the women is crucial. If the man has spent years putting her down she will turn OFF. Positive words of kindness and lifting her up - sugar is better than vinegar. Words have vibrations that push into the body. Words can physically hurt the cell tissue. Be careful what you speak if you want sex with your partner.
My tantric training and instruction with "Jewel in the Lotus": you will win and keep her heart with gentle approach and kind words. Not acting like a bull dozing male porn star. Today's porn is aggressive and over rated. Most women do not watch porn like men. Women love the art of seduction, the music, the smell of the room, the lighting & candles. Women like soft, a nice gentle body massage (lightly tap your finger tips like rain drops on the skin). Learn to rub her feet. Do it with tender detail and see how she responses. Make her foot massage a ritual she will not forget. Treat her like a Goddess and she will treat you like a God. Show her your blessing! Then see how she responds to your male eagerness for sex.