About a so-called male sub: Perhaps you need to be reminded that when you are humiliated that's when you are the happiest. Living in you fantasy world about your love stuff is not real. Being humiliated is real and makes you truly happy. Fetish Diva Diamond has a trusting male top friend and in their conversation about fetish subs he was very perceptive. I think the fetish sub is not submissive but a control freak with low self-esteem. The control freak is insecure and gets off being humiliated by women who do not like him. That is why he keeps trying to marry women THAT dump him like a hot potato. It is not love that he wants he wants to be humiliated by lots of women.